“Before you go, let me ask you one question: When was the last time you were decently kissed? I mean, truly, truly good and kissed?”
This line, from the closing scene of That Thing You Do!, has always been one of my favorites. And although I have never had a guy ask me such a question, it’s not a bad question for a girl to ask herself. To be honest, I’ve recently become somewhat obsessed with the answer. I’m guessing it’s one of the many side effects of turning 35 this month. Self reflection always seems to be the first “gift” I receive for my birthday; looking back on past loves and lusts as I contemplate my goals for the future. So comes the question: When was the last time I was truly good and kissed?
First, let me define what I mean by “truly good and kissed.” I’m referring to that moment when you know you have chemistry with someone; you know you both feel something that can only be described as butterflies. You are both nervous and excited at the same time. You are standing there face to face, wondering if this moment will happen as you are hoping it will. Then, as you look into each other’s eyes . . . you pause. You both know you want the kiss. You both feel the time is right for the kiss. Finally after seconds that feel like hours, he slowly leans in and plants a kiss on you that takes your breath away. In that moment, the world stops. All you feel are your lips touching and your hearts beating. Something simply amazing has just happened. Even thinking about it makes me sigh.
So when was the last time I had that? Honestly, I can’t even remember. Maybe it was my first boyfriend Bill. Actually that may be the only time I’ve ever had a kiss like that. And embarrassing as it is to admit, I know why I, like many of us, have settled for the drunken first kiss. Blame it on meeting someone for the first time in a bar, or having a few too many drinks on the first date, or perhaps just impatience. Whatever the reason, it’s why I haven’t been good and kissed in over 10 years. Pathetic.
Meet, drink, kiss. Meet, drink, kiss. This pattern needs to end. I am determined to get another world-stopping kiss in my life. And since this is all in my hands, I’m making a promise to myself to start fresh. The next time I meet a guy and I feel sparks, I’m going to wait for that kiss. Nowadays everyone is in such a rush for everything, but some things are absolutely worth waiting for. And that kind of moment is definitely one of them. But I say this to the guy who will give me that kiss: Please don’t let that thing you do be just a one-hit wonder.