Well we all know the saying “easy come, easy go.” Last month I finally opened up about the new relationship I had been in since October. And today, I am writing about our breakup. I understand that many may feel the “classy” thing to do would be to avoid divulging the details of such a personal event in my life. But seeing as how you all have stuck with me along this journey of life and love and its ups and downs,
I think it’s only fair to share this as well. And while I am sure this will become known as the Baltimore Bachelorette’s Bitter Breakup Column, I am going to do my best to keep a positive spin on this, in the form of a Do’s and Don’ts of Dating column. Ladies AND gentlemen, please take note.
First and foremost, DO be honest about who you are and what you want. DON’T tell someone that you are looking to settle down and get married and have kids if you aren’t.
DO wait to enter into a commitment of any kind until you are ready. DON’T ask someone to be your girlfriend after two weeks of dating if you aren’t sure you are ready for that. And when that person eventually tells you they are falling for you, definitely DON’T accuse them of moving too fast.
DO choose to communicate your feelings. And if you are having doubts or want to maybe slow things down, speak to the person you are dating rather than, say . . . your barber. DON’T think it won’t get back to her anyway. People talk.
DO appreciate the person you are dating and respect them enough to utilize the opportunities they give you to open up about what you are thinking and feeling.
DON’T get drunk every time you are together, so you don’t have to deal with it.
DO wait until you are actually broken up to start dating someone else. And if you are dumb enough to break that rule, DON’T post things on Facebook that blow your cover.
Okay, so I guess I did tell the story after all. But with social media being like an online diary, there is no such thing as privacy anymore. Anyway, despite the way this situation went down, it hasn’t changed my outlook. I still believe in a few more DO’S. . . . DO believe in love. DO follow your heart. DO take risks by falling for someone.
Just also remember, DON’T lose sight of reality. DON’T let someone’s foolish behavior sour you on love. DON’T stick around when you know it’s over. And definitely DON’T screw over a girl who has the power to write about it.