Have you ever cheated on a test? Fibbed on a résumé? How about cheating on your diet? Most likely, at some point or another in our lives, we have all participated in at least one of these acts of dishonesty. But how about the big one: Have you ever cheated on a significant other?
This is a question that some may find difficult to answer because of the various definitions of what exactly constitutes cheating—especially in this day and age. But I can solve that confusion in one statement: If you have to ask if it’s cheating, then it probably is. When I look around these days, I swear it seems as if fidelity is as endangered as the humpback whale. Back in the day, it used to be that adultery was something only sleazy people did. It was a taboo subject that those engaging in kept between themselves. It definitely wasn’t something you made public knowledge; mainly because you didn’t want to get caught, and/or you worried how it would affect other people’s view of you. But, oh, how times have changed!
Nowadays, not only do I see people cheating, but they aren’t even trying to hide it! What’s worse is that it’s almost as if they are bragging about it by flaunting their affair in plain sight! I, personally, have had a number of clearly married men come up and hit on me. To which I say, “Um, aren’t you married? Do I look like I want to be someone’s mistress?” Somehow they always seem surprised by my lack of interest. I don’t know if it’s an ego thing or if they are just unscrupulous, but I see it all the time.
So how is a single girl to remain confident that when she meets a special guy he will remain faithful to her? Well, all it takes is one good example to remind you that there are good guys out there. Mine is my brother Josh. Quite the ladies man throughout his youth, Josh has been married to his wife, Tiffany, for six years (which, by today’s standards, is practically 25 years) and is absolutely a one-woman man. As a handsome and charismatic guy, Josh is constantly mobbed by women, but he always tells them he is married and not a cheater. I respect him so much for that.
I personally believe, if someone cheats on you once, they will keep doing it. No consequence equals no lesson learned. And why forgive that? Who wants to be with a cheater? But, if you don’t believe me, take the advice of hip-hop artist Kid Cudi: “If another girl steals your man, there’s no better revenge than letting her keep him.“